Posts Tagged ‘unconditional love’

Caring, Sharing, and Giving Are Good for Your Health

Wednesday, October 19th, 2011

The unexamined life is not worth living.” –Socrates

The ongoing American healthcare debate and the Occupy Wall Street movement has brought to light, sometimes in a painful, ugly way, the lack of altruistic thinking of some people. More of us could become in touch with a lifestyle choice that could bring us a wealth of happiness, integrity and wellness. Altruism seems to have grown out of favor over the past several decades, though it has been a part of human interaction throughout history, cooperation and sharing has always been a hallmark of what binds a group or even a culture together. Two or more people giving their resources can produce more than two individuals acting alone in most situations.

However many people have adopted an attitude of self interest, believing they have worked hard for what they have, so why should they give to others or an organization? This shift in thinking seems to be linked with a weakening in our sense of community, and a break down of family. We have higher divorce rates, an increase in children being diagnosed with serious emotion issues, and more distance between socioeconomic classes. We have put an emphasis on self-interest and greed, rather than empathy, compassion and sharing, while some in our society grow wealthy others are sinking into poverty.

The remedy to this societal trend lies with each individual. When enough people become conscious of how self-interest is infused into their lives and they challenge it by cultivating a new way of living, it spreads throughout the culture. Recent studies of brain activity indicates that we have a natural trait toward altruism, in other words we are hardwired to be kind, caring and giving. Exploring this part of your self can bring you back into harmony with your natural state, and can improve your well-being.

Volunteer work has been shown to be beneficial in many studies, it can–
–Enhance the functioning of our immune system
–Lower cholesterol levels
–Reduce stress
–Improve cardiovascular functioning

Many people are caught in the trap of materialism. Working hard to make more money to buy more things, and the more things they want the more they need to work, which diminishes the time they have to use the stuff they have worked so hard to buy. Our lives become focused on self-interest and we loose touch with the richer life that comes from having a connection to the community and sharing what we have with others.

Many times people find that they are truly happier with a simpler life, and they find the quality of their everyday living can be much higher when they give themselves the gift of time. Think about the simple abundance that is in your community, literally in your own back yard, and share your gifts and talents with others. You can always feel good about helping others, and make a contribution to help others.

A professional helper can guide a person as they explore the reasons they have fallen into the consumerism trap, and help them develop the skills needed to feel okay with living a simpler lifestyle.

Pets Help People To Be Well

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

Can you name one medication that can lower blood pressure, boost our immune system, increase motivation, lessen the impact of depression, help with PTSD, decrease feelings of loneliness , elevate self-image, and help cultivate our ability to trust?   We can’t either, but these are just some of the benefits of healthy pet keeping.  Under most instances having a pet is a healthy and healing experience, pets can also help people to be more social.

Early contacts between our ancestors and canines benefited both species, and a dependent relationship evolved.  The animals first enjoyed food scraps and eventually accepted and enjoyed physical contact.  The humans benefited by having a warning when intruders were approaching.  Today it is estimated that 50 million households have pets.  Dogs and cats are most popular, but people also enjoy pet birds, fish, hamsters, rabbits, and more exotic pets like reptiles, hedgehogs and even tarantulas.

Pets can provide a significant source of emotional attachment that can be as important as the bonds formed between people, sometimes the bond with a pet can even be stronger than those with people, because bonds with many animals are perceived as unconditionally positive.  Pets can be our most personal and trustworthy companions because they are always there for us regardless of how we look or feel.  We can gain structure to the day by caring for our pets and we can demonstrate nurturance and love toward them, even when it seems like there is no one else available to receive or understand our love.

Of course, even with all the benefits of having a pet, it is not something to be entered into lightly.  Pets need to be cared for, and not only fed, they also require grooming and veterinary care.  Some people’s lifestyles are not suitable for some types of pets, so learning about how to keep a certain kind of pet healthy and happy is important to do before getting a pet.  A person who smokes tobacco may want to stop before bringing a pet home, and make that part of “pet proofing” the home.  Pets demand little from us, yet they are a source of immediate and consistent feedback, a benefit that is often hard to find in the social world.