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Caring, Sharing, and Giving Are Good for Your Health

Wednesday, October 19th, 2011

The unexamined life is not worth living.” –Socrates

The ongoing American healthcare debate and the Occupy Wall Street movement has brought to light, sometimes in a painful, ugly way, the lack of altruistic thinking of some people. More of us could become in touch with a lifestyle choice that could bring us a wealth of happiness, integrity and wellness. Altruism seems to have grown out of favor over the past several decades, though it has been a part of human interaction throughout history, cooperation and sharing has always been a hallmark of what binds a group or even a culture together. Two or more people giving their resources can produce more than two individuals acting alone in most situations.

However many people have adopted an attitude of self interest, believing they have worked hard for what they have, so why should they give to others or an organization? This shift in thinking seems to be linked with a weakening in our sense of community, and a break down of family. We have higher divorce rates, an increase in children being diagnosed with serious emotion issues, and more distance between socioeconomic classes. We have put an emphasis on self-interest and greed, rather than empathy, compassion and sharing, while some in our society grow wealthy others are sinking into poverty.

The remedy to this societal trend lies with each individual. When enough people become conscious of how self-interest is infused into their lives and they challenge it by cultivating a new way of living, it spreads throughout the culture. Recent studies of brain activity indicates that we have a natural trait toward altruism, in other words we are hardwired to be kind, caring and giving. Exploring this part of your self can bring you back into harmony with your natural state, and can improve your well-being.

Volunteer work has been shown to be beneficial in many studies, it can–
–Enhance the functioning of our immune system
–Lower cholesterol levels
–Reduce stress
–Improve cardiovascular functioning

Many people are caught in the trap of materialism. Working hard to make more money to buy more things, and the more things they want the more they need to work, which diminishes the time they have to use the stuff they have worked so hard to buy. Our lives become focused on self-interest and we loose touch with the richer life that comes from having a connection to the community and sharing what we have with others.

Many times people find that they are truly happier with a simpler life, and they find the quality of their everyday living can be much higher when they give themselves the gift of time. Think about the simple abundance that is in your community, literally in your own back yard, and share your gifts and talents with others. You can always feel good about helping others, and make a contribution to help others.

A professional helper can guide a person as they explore the reasons they have fallen into the consumerism trap, and help them develop the skills needed to feel okay with living a simpler lifestyle.

How to Make Positive Changes in Your Life

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

By, Cynthia Lindner, MS

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Why do people seek out a Professional Counselor or Hypnotherapist for help?  There are many reasons a person may seek help. Some people would like to understand themselves better, while other may have a particular issue or self-defeating behaviors they want to address. Perhaps change is needed because the behavior is harming their health, interfering with their relationships with loved ones, or making it difficult to hold down a job.

healthyThe list of self-defeating behaviors is endless.  People want to stop smoking, and abusing other substances. They want to stop eating “junk food”, become a healthy weight  and exercise more.  They want to have fewer arguments and have more productive discussions with family, friends and coworkers.  Many desire to get their anger, anxiety, procrastination and controlling behavior transformed to calm optimism, so they find someone to help them make a positive change.

Making life changes is easy for some people and a daunting task for others.  Sometimes people have some success, but after a while they relapse back into their old patterns.  Perhaps they weren’t ready to make the change in the first place.

Research has identified six major stages in the change process, as discussed in Changing For Good by Prochaska, Norcros and DiClemente.

First, is the Precontemplation Stage, this is when other people such as family and professionals can see there is a problem the person with the problem fails to see it and feels no need to make a change.  They may agree to work on an issue because of external influence, or they want to quiet the nagging, but they are prone to returning to the behavior once the pressure is off.

Moving into the Contemplation Stage the troubled person is tired of feeling stuck in life with the self-defeating behavior, and can admit there is a problem, though they may not yet be willing to change it, still preferring the familiar.  It is during this stage that people begin to define their own goals.

There is a Preparation Stage– There is an awareness of the problem issue, a person makes plans and gets ready to do the work of making a change happen.  There is typically an increase in motivation, and a person may make the commitment to change public, such telling friends that a new diet will start in a week and asking them to not tempt them with baked goods, for example.

The Action Stage is the stage that is most visible to others.  Since changes are truly being made, a therapist can shift the focus to learning new strategies to maintain the changes over time.

Which brings us to the Maintenance Stage.  It is a time to make the changes that have taken place and make them part of everyday life.  You may think of the term lifestyle change taking place of the word diet.

There is the Termination Stage when the lifestyle change has become the natural behavior and there is no longer a battle with one’s self over having a smoke, a drink or overeating.  It feels like temptations are no longer a concern, and the person can live their life with out fear that a relapse will occur.

A skillful therapist can be a helpful partner through all of these stages by examining why change may be difficult and finding solutions to those obstacles to change, and help the person stay the course by working through the difficulties.  I would also like to mention that a person may not just move through these stages sequentially. A person may advance to Preparation, and the find themselves back at the Contemplation Stage.

6 Tips Help You Reduce Weight and Keep It Off!

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

Lasting weight loss demands that a transformation of your eating and exercise habits takes place, and using hypnosis can help people to look forward to eating and moving in a way that reflects a healthy lifestyle. Many other choices we make each day, such as how much time you spend sleeping or surfing the Internet, can also make a difference. The seven habits described in this article can help you move toward your goal weight.  Most target the common reasons people become overweight.

To get started, just do one thing differently. Choose the one that seems the most feasible for you, and work at sticking with it for a week. Once you’re doing it fairly consistently, add another one. Over time, you will realize that many of these behaviors can be interconnected.

1. Set small, specific, and reachable goals.

Perhaps you’d like to be the same size you were in high school or when you got married, but that would mean dropping more than 50 pounds. Don’t go there — not yet, at least. Set a more realistic goal of losing 5% to 10% of your weight, and give yourself plenty of time and some flexibility to reach that goal, keeping in mind that most people take at least six months to achieve that degree of weight loss.

2. Begin self-monitoring.

Writing down what you eat and how much you exercise can help you gain awareness of your behaviors and track your changes toward specific goals. To keep tabs on your what you are eating and how much activity you get, you can go low-tech (a pocket-size notebook with a pen) or high-tech (a smartphone app). There are even free sites on the internet to help with this. The idea is to create some mindfulness and identify areas you need to improve.

3. Eat a reasonable breakfast every morning.

Some people skip breakfast because they’re too rushed or they aren’t hungry. See if getting up 15 minutes earlier (which means going to bed earlier so you don’t loose sleep time) to make time for breakfast and practice putting down your utensil or sipping water, coffee, or tea between bites. Refrain from slamming down a fast food sandwich, or a bagel with a slab of cream cheese. Instead, have some whole grains, some protein and fruit.

4. Get active.

Work at adding activity to your day. Swim laps at a local pool, go dancing, play Frisbee, or take a brisk walk. Finding an activity that you really enjoy will make it easier to stick to a routine, and incorporating new types of activity can keep you challenged and less likely to become bored. Depending on your fitness level, you can start slow and gradually add more time and more vigorous activities

5. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep.

Research has shown that inadequate sleep can lead to weight gain. Most people need about eight hours of sleep a night, give or take a little. Some people may need more, some less. You’ll be able to tell if you’re getting enough sleep when you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to go, rather than groggy or tired.

6. Check and change your screen time.

Many people who struggle with weight complain that they don’t have enough time to exercise or to go grocery shopping and prepare healthy meals. But, most people do spend several hours watching TV or using their computer for entertainment. Keep track of your screen time for a week, then work at reducing the number of hours by a quarter or a third, and devote that time to your weight control efforts.


Hypnosis Can Help You To Become A Non-Smoker

Thursday, April 14th, 2011

Hypnotherapy is one technique that is a natural way to help you teach your subconscious what your conscious mind already knows– that using tobacco is harmful. Hypnotic intervention helps you to recognize the benefits of being a non-smoker, and return to the non-smoker you were born to be. You may learn new ways to cope with stress. During private sessions, your personal issues are addressed. We realize that people want to be smoke free for different reasons. For some, the reason for becoming a non-smoker is health concerns, while for others the concern is social acceptance. Some smokers are fed up with the rising cost of cigarettes, and others are angry about the apparent lies put forth by the tobacco industry itself. If you have tried other methods for quitting, but failed, private hypnotherapy may be right for you.

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Self-Help Tips

Here are some tips to use while becoming a non-smoker.

-Enjoy your meals without overeating; eat slowly and pause between bites.

-After dinner treat yourself to a mint or cup of herb tea with a touch of honey.

-To wakeup in the morning take a quick walk or do some other exercise.

-Take a deep breath and exhale slowly, the desire to smoke has passed.

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This St. Patrick’s Day Don’t Drive Drunk

Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

By, Frank Lindner, MS, LMHC

St. Patrick’s Day in America conjures up thoughts of going to parades, enjoying ethnic food and perhaps drinking a few beers with friends.  Many of these pleasurable experiences will find people away from home, and if drinking is part of the festivities for any holiday or occasion, plans should be made for transportation, such as a non-drinking designated driver.

In the work I do preforming evaluations and treating individuals who have been arrested for DWI, I can tell you people from all walks of life have made the mistake of driving under the influence.

On any holiday law enforcement is expected to increase traffic patrols on the lookout for drunk drivers in an attempt to prevent alcohol related crashes and fatalities.  If you drink and drive your chances of of being caught are greater than ever before. The STOP-DWI Law has increased both enforcement and prosecution of drunk drivers.  State and local police are doing blanket patrols and checkpoints to aid in the apprehension of drunk drivers.

These efforts not only effect people who are addicted to alcohol, but also the social drinker who may have one too many, and fails to exercise good judgement and have a plan to safely get back home. I recommend making plans for how you will return home before arriving at celebrations where alcohol will be served. It is also a good plan to have back-up strategies for your plans because sometimes situations change. It can be a good idea to designate a sober driver and a back-up sober driver before going out. You may also program cab numbers into your cell phone’s speed dial in case your designated driver plans fall through.

Have a safe and enjoyable celebration this St. Patrick’s Day, and remember if addiction is a problem, treatment and recovery are attainable.  Coming to terms with addiction can mean a return to a meaningful, beautiful life, and being the complete person we are all meant to be.

Frank Lindner, MS, LMHC helps adults, children and teens to develop coping skills and changes in thinking for dealing with issues such as Depression, Anxiety, Grief, Stress, Codependency and other issues that affect us from day to day. He is among New York State OASAS certified providers which form the nation’s largest and most diverse addiction treatment system. Frank is qualified and is approved by OASAS to do assessments for DWI cases.  He can be contacted by phone. Dial (631) 473-0405